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Mel Jay
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The power of inner child healing
I used to think inner child sounded so silly, the overthinking and intellectualising part of me thought how could revisiting or doing exercises with a younger version of me in mind be beneficial? I mean I had already spent decades going through many different therapists exploring all avenues of my childhood, I thought hadn’t I already done inner child healing? And if so … why wasn’t I feeling better? Why didn’t I resent my parents any less? And why did I also feel so scared b
Mel Jay
Dec 2, 20254 min read
The ethnic identity of cacao
Unpublished essay from my postgraduate studies in anthropology researching ceremonial cacao. I share my essays to track my growth and...
Mel Jay
Feb 17, 202310 min read
The identity construction of spirituality through the consumption of ceremonial cacao.
Unpublished essay from my research on ceremonial cacao during postgraduate studies in anthropology.I share my essays to track my growth...
Mel Jay
Feb 17, 20238 min read


What's your body count?
Have you ever been sat at a table filled with laughter then someone asks that dreaded question ... "what’s your body count?". Everyone around you is buzzing with curiosity and laughter and you just freeze … what do I say? Are you asking about who I've allowed to touch me? Who I've enjoyed touching me? Who forcibly touched me? Or who paid to touch me? I’ve never known how to approach this. I feel like majority of my life I’ve lived a double life, on one hand I am so open but
Mel Jay
Aug 6, 20216 min read


The man who first broke my heart
Hello ... Welcome back! Thank you for finding yourself in this space again, holding space for me, I feel the love as I release and its...
Mel Jay
Aug 6, 202114 min read


Angels walk this earth
Just currently sitting at my desk, Vanilla candle burning, heart crystals next to me, the sun is shining in and I have my sliding door...
Mel Jay
Aug 6, 202113 min read
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